Don’t look for the right person. Become the right person!

Very often in life we are on the lookout for the “right person”. Some believe that no one will ever fit them, some believe that they have to keep an eye out for the right person and some others believe that by some way, God will bring the right person to them. Regardless of which of the possible types you might be (even if you are not on the above examples), it is important to know it is far more important to focus on being the right person first.

In the (then) perfect world where Adam and Eve lived, God created Adam first before Eve.

Genesis 2:7 (NIV)
“The Lord God formed the man from the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living being.”

God never intended for man (or woman) to be alone.

Genesis 2:18 (NIV)
“The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him”.”

God had planned right from the beginning for man and woman to be together instead of being alone. It is pretty obvious that if God made Adam out of dust, He could make Eve out of the very dust that he made Adam. God however chose to make Eve from man’s flesh and bone to illustrate that in marriage man and woman become one flesh

Genesis 2:22(NIV)
“Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib He taken out of the man, and He brought her to the man.”

Genesis 2: 24 (NIV)
“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wide, and they will become one flesh.”

It is interesting to note that Adam did not seek out Eve, he did not seek out the “right one” that was supposed to be his life partner. Now it is not that Adam did know there was something called a female because he was given the task to name all livestock God brought to him. Naturally and its an obvious assumption really, God brought both sexes of animals to Adam to name. So Adam would know in his heart that he lacked a counter partner (woman).

Imagine this; Adam is sitting on a rock while animals are brought to him by God. First a lion and lioness calmly walks up to Adam who stares at them. “God why are there two of them at the same time? Why do they look similarly yet one of them has a mane?” God then explains the male and female role and the whole deal while Adam slowly digests the facts. After naming them, different animals are brought to him, cows and bulls, tigers and tigress, eagles etc. He starts to wonder, why is everything in a pair? Why is there a male and female for everything I name while I’m alone?

Genesis 2: 19-20 (NIV)
“Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the beasts of the field and all the birds of the air. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds of the air and all the beasts of the field.”

Why I’m mentioning this is because we should follow Adam’s example of waiting patiently for God to bring the right person to us. Instead of hunting for the person God intended for us, we should pray for God to change us into the right person. Sometimes God does not introduce the intended person to us because he needs to install certain values into us first, teach us important lessons or teach us how to value the things around us first.

How to become a right person? It is very easy. Follow what God has instructed or placed into your life. This could be work, studies etc. In a utopia which was essentially Garden of Eden before the fall of humanity, we actually see work (leisure work in comparison to the work done after the fall of man) done.

Genesis 2:19-20 (NIV)
See above verse

God instructed Adam to name the animals God has brought to him. God never intended for Adam to just sit around and like count the number of leafs falling onto the ground and play catching with the squirrels while dinner is made for him by God. God had designated task for him. First we see the task of caring and working in the Garden of Eden then subsequently naming the animals.

Genesis 2:15 (NIV)
“The Lord God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it.”

Genesis 2: 19-20 (NIV)
“Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the beasts of the field and all the birds of the air. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds of the air and all the beasts of the field.”

All in all, we see Adam actually doing work in the Garden of Eden. Honestly not an easy task to do alone. Really, we can speculate why God had to make Adam wait first before bring Eve to him. I simply believe that God did not bring Eve until Adam was ready for her. It really could be that Adam might not have treasured Eve as much as he could have valued her. Why do I say this? Adam was given a really large task, naming all the animals in the world and caring for the Garden of Eden. God never intended for Adam to do it alone, he had from the beginning of time dreamt up of all of us (males and females).

Imagine this, Adam was going o.k for the first 2 hours naming animals and remembering every single name he gave them (because he wouldn’t be giving the same name to the same animal). Sooner or later, he would run out of ideas whether it is 4 hours later or 8 hours. Adam needed someone to help him out. I believe its during this time that Adam really learnt to value Eve as for who she is. She completed him and both of them together (as one) could complete the task God has laid for them. Adam had to become the right person, he had to change into the person God desired him to be. A person who loves and values Eve.

That’s why it is important for us to realise, it is not our job to look for our partner in life. Seek God’s presence and do earnestly whatever God has assigned you. Position yourself correctly to mould yourself into the right person.

God bless you,Jeremy Lim

As usual, any corrections, questions, words of wisdom and encouragement are welcomed. Pls post under comments and I will get back to you as soon as possible :)